I have mad love for my ex

August 08, 2022

Dear Pastor,

I am a 40-year-old man and I am a Christian. I do not have much of this world's goods, but I have lots of love to offer. I have two children, a boy and a girl. I gave their mother all I had.

I lost the house that I had and I am trying to start over. The children's mother walked out on me. She told me she could not continue with me because I am 40 and not making any progress.

When I found out that she was having an affair with one of my friends, I almost went crazy. She did not deny it. She told me she was doing so because he was able to give her more than what I was giving her. It was my 13-year-old daughter who first told me that her mother was cheating on me. I thought their mother would have denied it, but she didn't.

When the children's mother walked out on me, I tried to persuade her to come back home. I told her I forgave her but she said she was not coming back. I told her that I loved her and she said that love was not enough. Can you believe that?

I don't have money, but I offered my children's mother what I had - love. It is love that is keeping me. I will never kill myself because I love myself. I will always support my children and do everything that is good for them because I love them.

My elder sister moved in with us after my children's mother moved out. She said she was there to keep an eye on me because she was afraid I was going off my head. Yes, my sister loves me. I know now why so many people's marriages and relationships don't work. It is because people don't love each other. Children don't respect their parents because they don't love them.

I am now dating a woman who is 50. She has told me many times that she loves me and I should not fear. She will not walk away from me as my children's mother did. She has her own house and she is a widow. I know I love her but I still love my children's mother. I hope my love for this woman will grow.


Dear T.,

Love is still the basis for a relationship. It is not what persons have that should draw them to each other, it is still love. Although your children's mother has walked out on you, and told you that love is not enough, when God is in a relationship, love is enough. When there is no love in a relationship, it is better for a spouse to go. Without love, people will cheat and they will steal. But love will keep a relationship strong, very strong.

I would say to you, my friend, don't try to be reconciled with this woman. You are now going with an older woman and she has assured you of her love for you. Try your best to develop this relationship and, when the relationship gets stronger, let your children become a part of her life.

I wish you well.


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