Husband is too eager to have sex

May 25, 2023

Dear Pastor,

My husband and I have been married for seven years. These are seven precious years, but we do not like the summer months, they are too hot. I do not like to sleep in the nude.

I am so scared that something might happen, such as becoming ill and I have to be rushed to the hospital. My husband tells me to have my nightgown close by so he can quickly dress me.

When we first got married, my husband complained that I was punishing him and that I took too long to shower and come to bed. Why is it that some men behave as if sex is running away from them? They might have waited for a year, but now that they are married, it is something to look forward to.

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Dear Writer,

Every man should be forgiven for being overanxious to make love with his new partner. I remember that there was a group of people in Jamaica and they taught that when a young man gets married, he should not go to bed with his wife immediately. He should stay away from his wife for a few weeks before they consummate. I haven't heard anything from this group for a while. I don't know if they are still in Jamaica, but they used to have missionaries here. But since the pandemic, I do not know if they are still here. They believed and taught that to abstain from sex was one way to have men mature, and not to believe that sex was so very important in a relationship.

This group was wrong in what they taught. I have not seen what they taught in scripture. Why should a man be put under such pressure to be with his wife and be allowed to touch her and kiss her, but not to penetrate her? He may stimulate her in many different ways but not to penetrate her? That is crazy.


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